Refresh // Health

Phew!  We made it to the last section of my New Years manifesto.  Working my way through four categories of refreshment has been exhausting to write, let alone implementing it all into my life.  We have made it to the forth and final category, health.  When it comes to eating and exercise, in general, I have good habits.  There are a few things I’d like to improve upon, detailed on the list below, but it’s the mental health piece I need to work on.  The items in sphere of mental health are things I practice sometimes, but they are in no way habitual.  I would love to adopt them into my life in a real way. 

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  • Go to bed by 11:30 PM on week nights
  • Drastically reduce sugar intake
  • Cut dairy out of at least one meal per day
  • Reduce gluten in our diets
  • Be more spontaneous
  • Continue to volunteer
  • Institute a social media detox day once a month
  • Adopt a practice of gratitude and/or meditation that resonates with me
  • Accept unchecked items of my todo list with grace
todo list

That last item is probably my biggest stumbling block of all.  As a full-time working mom with a side hustle and a blog, it will never, ever be all done.  Accepting that my todo list is not finished is something I fail at.  I’d love to hear from you, friends.  How do you deal mentally with unfinished items on your list?  

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My Word of the Year // Refresh

Refresh, that’s the word I’m choosing for 2017.  My life is great, the problem is, I’ve been looking at it through a lens of negativity.  I don’t have any life changing goals for the next 365 days, but I plan to keep moving forward.  I hope to keep growing personally, and moving toward being the positive, fun-loving person I once was.  

It's hard to wear the rose colored glasses that were a permanent accessory in my life at 25.  Being a grown up comes with so many pressures and obligations, and when you're a driven, goal-oriented person, it's a challenge to slow down and realize how good you already have it.

Minimal Bedroom

That said, in true type-A form, I have made a detailed list of goals, divided into categories all under the umbrella theme of “refresh” to drive my next year.  I plan to organize my life and spaces to help me achieve both my ambitions and the balance I crave.  I really want to use you, my readers and friends as my virtual accountability partners to check in on how all this freshening up is going. 


So in this new year, I want to move toward making this blog a more personal conversation.  I still want to share my outfits, but I will talk more about how they fit my lifestyle as a 30 something working mom.  I still want to share beautiful spaces, but I want to discuss why in a world of excess you need ANOTHER rug (it’s a problem).  And I want to be more open about my life as a mother, struggles at being a good wife and strategies to achieve financial comfort, while still taking vacations and living life to the fullest.

Minimal Shelf

I hope you will come a long on this ever-evolving space that I promise will always be filled with Panache.

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2016 New Years Goals

If you know me or have followed the blog for a while, you probably know how much I love the ritual of making resolutions.  It's so therapeutic to me to self reflect and make goals that I hope to achieve in the coming year.  In the trend of adult coloring books, I have doodled my goals, to be hung on my bulletin board as a friendly reminder. 

Undeclared Panache Goals
  1. Make a realistic budget and stick to it.  I have been tracking my spending for three years now.  I've had a budget for three years.  I can go back and see exactly where we, went over said budget, but I have never made any conscience effort to improve.  We accomplished the hurdle of buying a house (yay!), but now we have lots of house expenses, and unfortunately a credit card bill that is pretty high.  I am putting this out to the world that I am going to do my absolute best to stick to the budget I've created and thus pay down my credit card.
  2. Use all the food we buy.   As we cleaned out the fridge the other day, I was a little disappointed in just how much food we threw away.  If I resolve to use everything we buy, I will be more thoughtful in my purchases, hopefully contributing to goal #1 as well. 
  3. Stop using plastic bags.  I bring totes to the grocery store 80% of the time, but I am so annoyed when I forget.  I challenge myself to keep count of the number of plastic bags I bring home.
  4. Make the switch to clean beauty (and cleaning products).  In 2015 I took baby steps to accomplish this goal.  I don't plan to throw out all my current products, but as I run out, replace with a cleaner, healthier option.  By this time next year, I want to use 85% or more clean products.
  5. Relax! With the 9 other goals on this list, a baby, husband, dog, a new house, a full time job, two blogs, and a side business, it's no wonder it's hard to find time to relax.  I want to use my time and fringe hours to maximum efficiently so I can give myself one evening and one ENTIRE weekend day to relax.  
  6. Practice joy.  There are many things that bring me joy in my life, my son, Oliver, my husband, finishing a big project, a nice comment on Instagram, but there are an equal amount of things that steal joy for me.  I recently discovered Brooke Castillio's podcast, The Life Coach School, she talks a lot about how you can control the perception of your thoughts to change the outcome.  I resolve to make a habit of changing my thought perception in a positive way to create more joy. 
  7. Do a race that challenges me.  I've been toying with the idea of a triathlon for the past few years.  That is definitely on the table, but also up for consideration another half marathon.
  8. Surround myself with people that inspire and lift me up.  There are so many people out there I admire, some for their career, some for the way they raise their kids, some for seemingly small reasons, like their kindness.  I want to be around these people and soak up their energy.  Conversely, I have other relationships in my life that leave me feeling like the my 6th grade self, a sad girl not invited to the party.  I am too old and I don't have room in my brain or in my day for the negativity and pain it causes me, instead, I want to surround myself with people who lift me up in one way or another.
  9. Find a way to give back once a month.  I feel so lucky to have had the best year in 2015, with so much good fortune.  There are so many out there who are not as lucky.  I know Oliver can't understand what it means to help others at this point, but by the time he can understand I want it to be a normal party of our lives. 
  10. Try rock climbing.  Something I've wanted to do for so long.  It seems absolutely thrilling to scale a mountain.  Maybe I won't be climbing Half Dome by 2017, but any step is a good step.